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Upcoming Workshop.

Alexandra Katehakis, PhD, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S
Friday, October 6, 2017                                                                                                              Dakota Lodge, West St. Paul, MN

Attachment, Affect Regulation, and Sexuality

 A one-day workshop with Alexandra Katehakis, PhD, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S

Friday, October 6, 2017

Space is limited so we encourage you to register early.
Looking forward to seeing you in October.



Alexandra Katehakis, PhD, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S is the Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles and the author of Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment, Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction, and co-author of the award-winning daily meditation book, Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence and contributing author of the award-winning clinical textbook Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts. Dr. Katehakis is a clinical supervisor at American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and clinical supervisor and member of the teaching faculty for the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals(IITAP) a national certifying body for sex addiction therapists. She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and The Huffington Post, as well as a prominent expert panelist at sexuality conferences and public events.

Attachment, Affect Regulation, and Sexuality

October 6, 2017



Affective neuroscience--the study of how emotions actually grow the brain and nervous system--shows that most of our psychological, intellectual, and even physical growth depends on attachment patterns we (or more correctly, our brains and bodies) learn during infancy. It also demonstrates how early developmental or relational trauma hurts not just our feelings but our cognitive and behavioral capacities as well, making us susceptible later to psychopathology. With hobbled capacities for self-regulation, self-reflection, self-differentiation, somatic awareness, and insight into self or others, traumatized people often can’t tolerate long-term intimacy. Truly being known by another (lover or therapist) threatens to bring back the shame and self-loathing experienced in repeated losses of emotional attunement with their caregiver. These findings allow us to understand and treat trauma survivors as regulation-impaired due to a fundamental attachment disorder. A holistic model for healing that includes cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and affect regulation therapy (ART) will be presented.


The course will briefly review regulation theory and the healing power of dyadic, relational psychotherapy. Emphasis will be on actual clinical work based on interpersonal neurobiology, the dyadic interaction between therapist and patient and the co-regulatory processes occurring that begin to increase the capacity for human relatedness and dissipate vulnerability for facing pain. Video taped sessions will illuminate examples of different attachment styles.

Morning Session Learning Objectives, participants will:


  1. Understand modern attachment theory as regulation theory

  2. Be able to formulate the difference between cognitive behavioral therapy and affect regulation therapy

  3. Define the different attachment categories that sex and love addicts usually fall under

  4. Understand the importance of working with somatic transference and countertransference in order to increase their capacity for patient co-regulation


Building upon regulation theory as examined in the morning session, the KIST© Model takes a psychobiological approach to assisting those who struggle with sex and sexuality  in defining optimal sexuality. Therapists will find guidelines for assisting patients towards his or her conceptualization of a healthy, pleasurable sex life from a body/mind perspective.  The goal of this collaborative model between patient and therapist is to awaken the patient to 5 dimensions of healthy sexuality (physical, affective, cognitive, interpersonal-intrapsychic, spiritual) as defined by the KIST© Model. As such, the patient is invited to take stock of his or her sexual health, to examine in great detail his or her sexually “addictive” or compulsive behaviors (or fantasy behaviors), to pluck out sexually arousing and enjoyable behaviors, to track sensations in the body, to illuminate his or her personal values, sexual arousal templates and preferred sex acts, to imagine conversations about sex with his or her partner, and to consider where or if, there is a place for his or her spirituality in sexuality. Through a guided process, the patient’s preferred sexual behaviors come into alignment with what the patient both thinks and feels they want without shame.

Participants are encouraged to bring cases for role-play purposes.


Afternoon session Learning objectives, participants will:


  1. Be able to define the components of sexual health

  2. Understand how to use the 10 basic components of a psychobiological model to track affect, somatic transference and somatic counter-transference

  3. Have experience using the KIST© Model for guiding those whose sexuality has been impaired toward optimal sexuality


October 6, 2017

8:15-9:00 AM Registration 
9:00 AM - 5:00 PM Workshop

Two 15 min. breaks.

1.5 hour lunch on your own.

Coffee, tea, and light refreshments provided throughout the day.



The course is suitable for all counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, health and social care professionals practicing in health, education and social care settings and in private practice, and who have a core professional training. It is suitable for therapists working in all modalities. 


Early Bird Pricing (Through September 8)


Licensed Professionals:  $100

Professionals with a degree, but not yet licensed:  $75

Student, Military, Veterans:  $50

September 9- October 5


Licensed Professionals:  $125

Professionals with a degree, but not yet licensed:  $100

Student, Military, Veterans:  $75


Continuing Education Credits will be provided for those who attend the full day, with pending approval from:

MN Board of Psychology (LP)

MN Board of Behavioral Health and Therapy (LADC & LPCC)

MN Board of Marriage and Family Therapy (LMFT)  

MN Trauma Project is an approved continuing education provider through the MN Board of Social Work (LICSW)    


Workshop Venue:  Dakota Lodge


Address:  1200 Stassen Ln, St Paul, MN 55118


Parking:  Free Lot


ADA Considerations:  Handicap Parking available

Single Level Facility


Please contact MN Trauma Project at for any specific accomodation requests

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